Luna Orignaux

Have you ever set aside a day just for sex? I’m sure many of you have. If you haven’t you should try it. While it can obviously be a great thing for couples, don’t rule it out if you’re going solo either. An entire day of self love is not only refreshing, you’ll be amazed how you turn heads for the next few days! Whether you’re partnered or on your own, a full play day is a very healthy, happy thing!

Food
You can always incorporate food into sexual activities. If mingling food and sex squicks you that’s, fine, just don’t forego eating. Low blood sugar can make you cranky, depressed, and/or anxious. Keep your meals reasonably light so you don’t get bloated or sleepy and so you don’t get cramps during sex (much like the eating and swimming rule). Try to incorporate aphrodisiac foods, but unless food is the main theme for your sex day, don’t let the preparations take over the day. I discourage chemical laden foods, too, such as those containing MSG, because they make me feel sluggish and generally crappy. Even if you’re not aware of it, they probably make you feel that way too to some extent. Also, avoid excessive sugar due to the crash and irritability.

A little bit of protein, like meats and cheese, and a little bit of fruit, seem to work really well to snack on throughout the day.

Mini Spa
A little self-care can go a long way. You don’t have to go to a spa. You can do this for yourself at home. Just a little pampering can do worlds for you, or you can take it as far as you like. This can be done the morning of your play day or the night before. What I like to do is a coffee scrub, complete shave, full-body coconut oil (unless I choose to wait and have my lover do that part later), followed a glass of wine with a half hour of journaling with some good music, candles, and incense.

The Activities
This is really a matter of personal preference. All day sex does not mean that you have to do nothing but have sex all day. For most of us, that would be very unrealistic and probably result in some serious injuries. Anything can work. It really all depends on your attitude. All kinds of everyday activities can carry more than a little hint of sexual tension. Focusing your attention on your partner throughout the day can be enough to keep the sexual energy high. You could play board games, watch movies, cook, whatever, and keep that energy going.

Clothing
What you wear matters! That doesn’t mean it has to be all your sexy gear all day. You may feel more inclined to arousal wearing something comfortable. On the other hand, some of us get more and more turned on by wearing restrictive, sexy clothing. If your house is comfortable enough you may prefer the all-nude day.

Reading and other enhancements
For some, the play day is enhanced by some personal time. A little reading indulgence can help you relax. Maybe one of you enjoys porn and the other doesn’t. Don’t be afraid to make room for individual activities that foster arousal, just don’t let them become so much of the day that they take away from what you enjoy together.

So many issues and discussions have come up lately to prompt me to write this. There seems to be a general consensus that we are constantly bombarded by sexual images and that that is a bad thing. I have to say up front that I strongly disagree.

 

The problem is a very uptight society whose obsession with repressing and condemning anything sexual is superseded only by its inability to resist effective marketing tactics. Fear and condemn the naked body, desire, and arousal, but by all means do not hesitate to use them to sell things. And if you can combine the two, all the better! (Example: showing the Paris Hilton pantyless photos to draw in traffic to an article condemning her for the behavior)

 

I long for the day when we shed the inhibitions and condemnation that dampen and taint our natural ability to simply be sexual and feel good about it. The day when if a woman wears something sexy or revealing, no one acts like there is some reason to condemn her for it. When being overtly sexual and sexual orientation are both non-issues. I long for the day when people can accept the fact that they become aroused without fearing their own arousal. When the flitter of physical pleasure that you might feel in the shower or when the seam of your jeans rubs you just right is just a happy part of life, not an embarrassment. The day when the phrase “wondering eyes” has no meaning, because we all accept that it is completely normal to enjoy looking at those around us when they look good.

 

Yes, I long for the day when the term “public indecency” is a joke. When refraining from breastfeeding in public is condemned as unhealthy for your child. When public displays of affection are considered a good sign, a sign that we are becoming a healthier, more loving (and therefore more moral) society, rather than a sign that we’re all “going to Hell in a handbasket.”

 

The most recent post I’ve read on the subject was “The Golden Age”, by Lisabet Sarai. While I don’t agree with everything she says, her overall message really speaks to me. I think that any disagreement we may have on the subject is generational, and maybe her very fortunate opportunity to take full advantage of “the golden age” as she calls it, in some strange way gives her a more idealistic view of sexual condemnation than my own. What I mean is, her point of reference is very different, and it was a blessed and unique time.

 

My parents were of the age to enjoy that special time, but they did not take advantage of it. So, while I was told about it, it didn’t really count. The free love era was passed down to me as mostly an anomaly. However, I was also taught that society in general was becoming ever more lax and liberal in its view of sex. That was completely inaccurate. When I was a child showing cleavage and butt cheeks was just summer wear. Now it’s, well, it’s a whole different story. Now it’s a statement!

 

When I was a child it was not weird, criminal, shocking, or perverted to admit that teenagers had, or at least thought about and tried to have, sex. Now it’s sick and criminal. So sick and criminal that if a teenage girl gets caught sending a nude photo of herself to her boyfriend, of her own free will, she is legally labeled and prosecuted as a pedophile. Would someone please explain to me how one commits a sex crime against oneself?

 

No, I don’t think we are exposed to too much sex. I think we are exposed to too little. I think that until we start to accept sexual desire and arousal for what it is, a natural and hardwired thing like hunger for food, we will continue to suffer and force suffering on others for no reason.

 

So, Say it with me folks…”Sex is good!!! Sex is our friend…”

 

 

 

I have never liked the idea of having any kind of chip implanted anywhere in my body. I don’t even like the strips they put in dollar bills. The idea of walking around transmitting radio signals has always seems like way too much invasion of my privacy. The idea of having a chip in my brain that can receive signals is even creepier.

 

Even so, this new chip does sound interesting. I don’t see myself signing up for it, but for people who are unable to experience pleasure it might be worth the trade off. The chip was originally created to help people with Parkinson’s disease. Now it’s being tried on a part of the brain called the orbitofrontal cortex to treat adhedonia. Anhedonia is the inability to experience pleasure, normally including pleasure from sex.

 

You can read more about the chip here http://www.telegraph.co.uk/scienceandtechnology/science/sciencenews/3886862/Sex-chip-being-developed-by-scientists.html

 

According to neurosurgery professor Tipu Aziz, "There is evidence that this chip will work. A few years ago a scientist implanted such a device into the brain of a woman with a low sex drive and turned her into a very sexually active woman. She didn't like the sudden change, so the wiring in her head was removed."